Living in such a digital world, it’s hard not to compare. Between all of the likes, reblogs, retweets, stunning images, picture-perfect families, charming houses, gourmet meals, people constantly seeming to be traveling to far away lands, it can be a lot to take in a process. Comparison is a real and human reaction; it happens to the best of us. But in the same breath, the air of comparing can be incredibly distracting and intimidating. If you're reading this, and have found yourself caught up in comparison, I challenge you to lean deeper into yourself and truly own where you are in your journey.
Why am I sharing this? Because I had to check my comparison meter last week. It threw me off so bad that I couldn't sleep and I was obsessing over what I was lacking in my career compared to someone else. It was bad.
This is what I told myself while working through the feelings of negative self-measurement against others: If you don’t like your current location, do the work to change it.
What I am learning while navigating the vastness of the internet is that we cannot live our fullest lives when we're continuously trying to keep up with how someone else is living.
The sneakiest lie comparison tells us is “you can’t have what they have" or "you can't do what they do because they're better than you." As hard as it may be, don’t listen to that voice or engage in the negative self-talk that will follow. And trust me, the voice of self-skepticism is a loud and harsh, and you may have to work extra hard to silence it with positive affirmations. Engaging in self-doubt and feelings of inferiority will further trick you into changing your narrative and questioning your purpose (this happened to me last week).
I think it's important to point out that the internet does not showcase the whole story and none of us truly knows how someone else got to where they are or accumulated what they have. That's a reminder we all need. The more wrapped up we get in someone else's life walk, the less likely we are to achieve the goals and intentions we've set in place for our own journey.
As cliché as it may sound, I am a believer that what is meant to be mine will be mine. So even in my moments of doubt, darkness, and uncertainty, deep down I know the longings of my heart are within reach, but they aren’t just going to come to me. In order to bring my desires to fruition, I must do the work without comparison or harsh self-judgment.
If you need some self-love this week, below are some journal questions to dive into. I hope they serve you well.
1. what am i longing for + how can i do the work to get it?
2. who/what am i comparing myself to + why?
3. list three reasons why you feel unworthy.
4. list five reasons why you KNOW you ARE worthy.
5. what seeds am i planting to grow an abundant life garden?